Imagine a life of Wellbeing. What would it be like? What would you want less of in your life? What would you want more of?

For many people, imagining is as far as it gets. They hope that wellbeing will come when some outside circumstance changes—when they get that new job, a new year comes, they win lotto, their wife, kids, or work colleagues change.

Positive emotions
Unfortunately even if we get these things, after not too long our wellbeing returns to where it was. After a while we give up trying because it all gets too hard and just accept the wellbeing we have.

It doesn’t have to be like this. There are simple things we can do to build wellbeing for ourselves now. And as wellbeing builds it gives us the ‘wherewithal’ to do those other things that are good for us.

Barbara Frederickson, as outlined in her book Positivity has shown that there’s a tipping point in wellbeing that takes your life from good, to flourishing. Her research shows that it has to do with the ratio of positive heartfelt emotions to negative emotions. The magic number is 3:1, we need at least 3 times more of the positive than the negative. It means we need to be proactive!

One of the keys to making this work is that the positive emotions need to be heartfelt. If they are not heartfelt, it doesn’t have the same effect. At the heart of wellbeing is our heart connection.

So how do we increase these heartfelt positive experiences?

Savour the Positive! Often we miss them or don’t give them enough attention. Below are some simple things that you can do .

• Notice and savour them.
• Let them sink in
• Remember and appreciate them during the day
• Share them by telling others
• Write them down
• Make a list at the end of the day

.Accumulating small positive experiences throughout your day builds a solid base for wellbeing, and you will begin to notice the difference. So savour and enjoy that cup of coffee, that nice interaction with someone, a smile, something of beauty